If you discover you are pregnant you may feel frightened, angry or scared.
The first step is to think through your feelings about the pregnancy and it will really help if you can talk to someone. This may be your partner or a best friend.
Most young people do tell a parent if they discover they are pregnant. You may be frightened that they will be angry but after the initial surprise most parents will want to be able to support you.
If you can't talk to your parents you may be able to talk to a friend or relative, an aunt or grandparent. If you really don't have anyone please go and see the nurse at the contraceptive clinic. You will find local clinic details under the services section on this website.
Your options
Have the baby
There is a lot of advice and support now available (see young parent section)
Have the baby adopted
You will need to tell the nurse at the contraceptive clinic or your doctor. They will help you with a referral to Social Services, which is an organisation that can support you and help you with this
Have a termination
If you do not feel ready to have a baby you need to see your doctor or the nurse at the contraceptive clinic. You will be encouraged to talk to your parents but no one can make you do this and the help you receive is confidential. They will first want to talk to you about why you want a termination and then they may refer you to a termination provider. If this option is for you it is essential you see someone early in the pregnancy, the earlier it is the easier the procedure. It will take a few hours if early in the pregnancy. If you are under 16 you will have to have a counselling session to be sure you have thought through the options. Counselling is free and is also available to people over 16 years. If you cannot get transport to the termination provider ask the nurse or doctor for help. It is very important to get your contraception sorted to start immediately after the procedure as you can become pregnant again straight away.
For more information about your options, visit your GP or local family planning/young person's clinic. They will be able to offer you help and support and whatever your choice, will be able to refer you to someone who can help.
The people at these places are trained to offer help and advice. They won't judge you. For local services, see the services section on this website or call the free information line on 0800 0728748.