Here are some previously asked questions from young people about realationships and image.
Question
Hey, I am in a relationship with someone that I have been with for 2 years now, he says he wants to have sex, but I’m not sure though, don't think I’m totally ready, I am worried though that he might get impatient or what ever with me and leave me. :( What can I do? xxxx
Answer
No one can decide whether it is right for you to have sex but you. You need to be sure it is what you want to do, make sure that you are protected against infection and pregnancy and that if you decide to have sex, that you talk first about being able to stop at any time if it doesn't feel right. If he doesn't seem to be listening to your worries or concerns, then you must ask yourself if he the right person for you anyway. If he cares and respects you then he should be prepared to wait until the time is right for both of you. The fact that he wants to have sex isn't a bad thing and you don't say that he has actually got impatient or said he will leave, so I feel you need to have an honest discussion with him so that he understands what a big decision that this is for you.
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Is there anyway I can make my penis bigger?
Answer
No, if you are young then it will get bigger as you go through puberty. If you have reached the age of 19/20 then it is likely to be the size that it is. Many men worry about size, but a study by a condom company suggested that although the size may be different when the penis is flaccid (not erect), there is not a lot of difference when they are erect.
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Hello, will it be uncomfortable for my boyfriend if I’m a virgin and we have sex?
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If you are sure that this is the right thing for both of you to be doing and it is part of a loving relationship then the whole thing should be enjoyable. Sex is a pleasurable experience for most people. However, for this to happen there has to be love, trust and consideration between you both and it is not always perfect the first time. Good enjoyable sex comes with time, experience and maturity. Make sure you use contraception, especially condoms.
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Hey, is it normal for the skin down below between the vagina and the bottom to be torn a little bit? Because mine is torn a little bit and it seems like I’m loose because of this or is it just where I’m loose from having sex? Thanks x
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This type of question is not able to be dealt with by this site. You need to go and see a nurse or doctor who will check this out and you may need an examination to see what his going on, if anything, down there. You might find this a little embarrassing but you would be able to stop worrying if all is OK.
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I'm a virgin, will having sex make my breast and hips grow?
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No. However, if you have sex and get pregnant your breasts and tummy will certainly grow!
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The skin on the inside of my vagina is really stretched and there is a lot of extra skin. Also, the edges are discoloured. I have no idea what this is from because I've never had sex. Is this normal and will it go away?
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I have worked as a midwife for many years and know that the range of normal for this part of our body is large, unlike faces and hands, which we all see and know are unique to each, this part of our anatomy is also unique to us. The description above easily fits in the normal range.
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Hi, I'm a boy of 12 and I'm getting these feelings that I don't know if I'm gay or straight and its badly upsetting me, please can you help me with some answers thanks.
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Hi - don't worry. It is very normal to feel like this. Don't feel under pressure to make any decisions just yet as you are still young. Your feelings will probably become clearer as you get older, and although it is hard to wait, just try to enjoy your friendships with boys and girls, for who they are. If these feelings continue to upset you talk to a friendly trustworthy adult or the school nurse or visit the young peoples clinic.
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I'm 16 and already have saggy breasts. As you can imagine this really gets to me and I feel very uncomfortable with myself. Is there anything I can do to change them?
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It is not unusual for girls to feel unhappy about the size and shape of their breasts. It is unusual however for breasts to become saggy at 16 as the supporting ligaments should not have become stretched. To prevent such stretching and to reduce your feeling of saggy breasts a good fitting bra is recommended. Bra fitting is available at good lingerie departments and shops which may include Marks and Spencers and does not oblige you to buy. Measurement should include measuring underneath the breasts to assess rib cage size and around the chest across the nipple to get a correct cup size. You may also feel more comfortable with a wider strapped bra. There are lots of different bras and crops tops available now so you can look trendy and have an effective bra support!
